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I Want Your Opinion

March 28th, 2010

Is a shift taking place? As you may know, I am working on my third book: Becoming: A Seeker’s Guide to Answering Life’s Two Most Important Questions. The premise of this book is simple: who you become and the life you live are shaped by what you focus on, and what you focus on is determined by that which holds the most value to you. I believe—in fact, I know—that nothing is more important than connection (connection to self, others, and higher power/purpose) and contribution. By making these two “Cs” your primary focus, you’ll become your best self and live your best life.

In the book, I explain that we’re experiencing a shift in values. Below is a short description of how I see this shift. Would you please take a minute to read it and answer the two questions that appear at the end?

The Great Values Shift

You may be feeling unsettled, but you may not be sure why. You are not alone. We are all sensing that a change is taking place, and change makes us uneasy. This unsettled feeling is mostly unconscious; few of us are able to articulate it. Yet it is very real.

The world is calling us to reexamine the way we look at things, to define our priorities, and to shift our values from materialism to meaning. It’s been called many names, including “post-materialism,” “the fourth great awakening,” and “the Age of Aquarius.”  I call it “The Great Values Shift.”

Values shifts have occurred throughout history. When these shifts occur, a social issue often gives birth to a movement. For example, we’ve seen women’s rights and environmental awareness give birth to movements that impact how we see ourselves and how we live our lives.

Today, “the new economy” is forcing change. Don’t look to the mainstream press for information; you won’t find much. But know that the issue is bubbling and boiling under the surface; it’s just a matter of time before it flows—rather than seeps—into our everyday consciousness.

While many factors contribute to this shift, two seem particularly relevant. First, the economy has forced many people to reevaluate their priorities. Job loss—or in many young people’s cases, the inability to find jobs—declining investments, and devastating debt are challenging many of us to reexamine our definition of success.

Second, each generation—for different reasons—is questioning the work ethic in this country.

The country’s eighty-five million baby boomers are aging. In the second half of their lives, they are becoming hyper-aware of their mortality and are becoming more introspective. Many are seeking increased meaning in their work and lives.

The forty-four to fifty million Americans born between 1965 and 1980, who make up Generation X, generally disdain authority and structured work hours and seek work-life balance. This generation works to live rather than lives to work.

Finally, the seventy-six million members of Generation Y feel that the line between work and home is nonexistent. These twenty-somethings want to spend their time in meaningful and useful ways, no matter where they are. For example, more than half of workers in their twenties prefer employment at companies that provide volunteer opportunities, according to a Deloitte survey.

Many of us are beginning to wake up to the realization that at the end of our days, it won’t be the number of cars we have in the carport that defines our lives, but the people we have loved, and who have loved us. We’ll feel good about our lives because we know we’ve been of service, and we’ll feel proud of how we’ve lived our lives.


One:  Do you feel there is a values shift taking place? Why or why not?

Two:  If so, would you share a story or quote about how “The Great Values Shift” is affecting you and/or your family and friends personally?

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The Secret of Attraction

March 21st, 2010

How to become more attractive. Albert Einstein proved through physics what the sages had taught for centuries: everything in our world is composed of energy, and everything radiates energy.

Scientists now know that our heart creates the body’s strongest, electromagnetic field and that with deep feelings of love, compassion, and caring this field actually expands and strengthens.

The heart is the most powerful energy center in the body and tends to bring all others into entrainment with it. When you focus on feelings of love and gratitude you raise your energy level and literally become more attractive to others.

It was said that when Mother Teresa walked into the room, you could feel the energy in the room rise. Likewise, have you ever walked into a room and you could literally feel the tension? How did it make you feel?

Take a minute and picture someone who you love. Go ahead…

You’ve positively shifted your energy field. Your relationships with other people are shaped by the interactions of energies. Raise your energy level, and you’ll raise your power to attract and interact with others.

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Silver Linings

March 6th, 2010

Those wonderful times when life makes lemonade out of lemons. Flight 1724 to LaGuardia has been canceled.” A moment of panic, then clarity. I speed dial and am immediately put on hold.

I am in the Atlanta airport on my way to New York. A winter storm has closed LaGuardia. “We appreciate your patience. The next available operator will be with you shortly.” As saccharine music plays, I weigh my options.

I could fly back to Asheville and abort the trip, or I could spend the night in Atlanta and try again tomorrow. Delta will give me a discount at an airport hotel, or I could stay with my brother’s widow, Helga. I haven’t seen Helga since before Christmas. It would be good to see her.

Still on hold, I hang up and dial Helga’s number. Miraculously, she answers. Even at seventy-seven, Helga is a social butterfly. Helga says she’s just canceled going to a concert that night and she’s free. She’s excited about my visit.

An hour later, Helga picks me up at the Lindbergh MARTA train station. It’s 6:30, and we head to dinner. We’ll eat out. My treat.

It’s a lovely evening. Helga and I talk, really talk. We talk about our lives, our disappointments, our joys, our dreams. Helga tells me about her childhood in Germany and coming to live in the States when she was just twenty-one. I am in awe at her courage.

We talk about my brother’s early death. She says he was the love of her life. My eyes fill.

We also talk about the future. Helga is considering renting a house in France. She invites me to visit.

The next morning, I board the MARTA train for the airport. I am booked on the 9:40 flight to LaGuardia. The weather is iffy.

Life is filled with silver linings, and last night was one of them. I feel even closer to my sister-in-law. New York can wait. There’s nothing more important than the relationships in our lives.

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