Build Your Leaders

Postcard from Asheville

April 2011

I’ve been thinking a lot about forgiveness lately. Perhaps it’s because I’m writing a book on breakups, or maybe because it’s spring, the season of new beginnings. Whatever the reason, forgiveness is on my mind.

It seems as if everything I read and everyone I talk to lately mentions the importance of forgiveness, but few offer any concrete suggestions on how to forgive. I’ve come to the conclusion that I can’t manufacture forgiveness, no matter how hard I try. Forgiveness comes when forgiveness comes.

The best I can hope for is to have the intention to forgive. With intention, I leave the door to forgiveness open a crack. Given time, I believe I’ll be able to walk through that door and fully forgive.

There are few tools more powerful than intention if we want to be our best selves and live our best lives. This month, we’ll examine the power of intention.     


The Power of Intention

Noble intentions create noble lives, and no intentions are nobler than those grounded in love. To live the intentional life means to live life with loving intention. When we live life with loving intention, we operate at a higher frequency.

My gym buddy Reba was telling me the other day about a recent visit out West to see friends. While there, she reconnected with a guy-friend she hadn’t seen in six years.

“It was amazing, Randy,” she reported. “Six years had passed, and we picked up right where we left off. It’s not a sexual thing, but it’s as if we are totally on the same wave length.” Reba hit the nail on the head; they were literally on the same wave length.

Everything that we know—yes, including our bodies—is energy. All of physical matter is nothing more than vibrating energy.

Our thoughts are also made up of energy. Since they vibrate at higher frequencies than matter, they cannot be touched. Thoughts lead to emotions, and emotions are pure energy. “Higher emotions”—such as joy, empathy, and gratitude—produce higher and faster energy fields. Similarly, “lower emotions” such as sadness, jealousy, and anger produce lower and slower energy. It’s important to note that of all the emotions, none is more powerful than love.

Dr. Masaru Emoto, who was featured in the film What the Bleep Do We Know?, has been conducting research that proves this point. His work, detailed in his book The Hidden Messages of Water, studies the effects of ideas, words, and music upon molecules of water. When the words “thank you” were taped to a bottle of distilled water, the frozen crystals had a similar shape to the crystals formed by water that had been exposed to “Bach’s Goldberg Variations,” music composed out of gratitude to the man it was named for. But the most beautiful crystals resulted from exposing distilled water to the words “love” and “gratitude.” 

To summarize:

  • Everything is energy, and energy is vibration
  • Emotions have charges. Lower emotions have lower frequencies, and higher emotions have higher frequencies.
  • The highest charged emotion is love. This means that love carries the highest frequency.
  • When we operate off an intention grounded in love, we can be assured that we are being our best self and living our best life.  

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